Dear Steve,
I’ve been on a couple dating sites for about four months. I’ve gone on a couple dates and met some potentially good matches, but they never seem to go pass a month before I’m ghosted and left wondering what went wrong. They usually start out strong. I will receive good morning and night texts, cute compliments, and all the guys have shown enthusiasm about wanting to know more about me. I just can’t figure out why they suddenly fizzle out. Sometimes I’m tempted to message them and just ask what changed, but I’m afraid I might appear crazy. I will admit that I am shy. I’m an introvert who attracts extroverts, so I wonder that if they just conclude that I’m boring in the end.
There was one guy I’ve gone on three dates with and I've felt a spark, but lately I feel him starting to pull away. We’ve shared some personal things, and I know a couple family issues popped up over the weekend. I’m not sure if I’m being impatient or paranoid. Should I just let this one go or be vulnerable and express how I’m feeling? It doesn’t upset me that he may have lost interest or maybe connected better with someone else, I just hate feeling rejected and not knowing why. I'm not head-over-heels for him but I think we could build something more.
Signed,
Wondering