Dear Steve,
I need some advice, or maybe just need an objective opinion.
I started graduate school this past September and met a guy in my program who is absolutely incredible. We became fast friends, delighting in how much we shared in terms of world views, values, and interests. Over time, I have begun to fall very much in love with him. I thought at one point he was starting to feel the same way ... but then he started mentioning someone he has strong feelings for from his hometown, so I actively tried to shut my own feelings down (to no avail).
This person is someone I hope will always be in my life; he is a friend I strongly value and respect. But as each day passes, it becomes harder and harder to pretend like these feelings for him aren't there. I haven't felt this way in a long time and want to be honest with him, even if he doesn't feel the same way.
What I fear is what may happen to our friendship if I bring this up. We have one more year of graduate school together, and I cannot bear the thought of not being able to spend time together like we usually do. Do I bite the bullet and lay all my cards on the table, or do I keep silent and allow time to pass and see what the future holds for us?
Signed,
– In Love With My Best Friend