Dear Steve,
I met a man around two years ago. He asked my colleague at work about me, found me on social media some time later and eventually started messaging me and asked me out.
Our first date was incredible, but something didn't feel right. I did a little online research and found that he is with someone else – and that they live together. I did not tell him what I discovered.
We would see each other once a month, and if I asked, he would always say he is single. Last month, I was planning a little road trip to get out of town and relax. He said he wanted to go with me, so we rented a place and spent the whole weekend together. It swept me off my feet; no one has ever made me feel so good. Then, when he went on a business trip, he kept texting, telling me how much he missed me.
Weeks later, when I was supposed to go to his place, he told me his brother was visiting, but I saw that his girlfriend was posting Instagram stories from their apartment. I felt it was the moment I should probably tell him that I know the truth, but I couldn't say a word. He says he wants to see me more often; he is now planning a trip overseas for us this summer. I can't help but keep seeing him. I know that the answer is to cut him off, stop seeing him, and move on, but I feel I can't do this.
– Not Good On Tough Decisions