Dear Steve,
My boyfriend and I are in our late 20s and have been dating for two years & are really happy together. We love each other's families, we don't bicker or fight very often, we laugh all the time, and we can definitely see a future together.
We don't live together yet, but we've talked about it since I do spend most nights at his place anyway. The problem I'm having seems to be the opposite of most other relationships — I have a MUCH higher sex drive than him, and am constantly getting turned down for sex by him. When we do have sex, it's amazing; it's just not as frequent as I'd like. Since I know your fans will be curious, it's currently one to two times a week, and while I'd love daily, I'd be happy with three to four times a week. The first year we were dating, we seemed to be more on the same page, but now our needs seem to have gotten further apart. I've always heard that women's sexual peak is in their 30's while men hit it in their early 20's. If this is the case, I'm worried I'll become even more unsatisfied in an important area of our relationship as I want it even more and he wants it even less.
My ex-boyfriend was pretty sex-crazed and ended up cheating on me, so I'm trying to see a lower sex drive as a positive thing, especially since my current relationship is the best one I've ever been in. Is there a way to compromise or to get him more interested? Or is our sex life going to be totally doomed further down the road?
- Sexually frustrated