Dear Steve,
I am a 25-year-old single male and I’ve been listening to this segment for almost a year now. I know you have a reputation for ending relationships, and that’s fine but I also want to know how you think people should approach prioritizing their career and personal goals versus dating.
I’m a student getting my degree in teaching and social work. I also work full time as well. To put it simply, my schedule is a mess. During the semester I work about 35 hours a week, have an unpaid internship for 15 hours, and take classes. Free time can be tough to find. Plus, working in the mental health field can be draining, so I am often exhausted by the end of the week.
I have dated here and there over the last two years, but usually find I don't have the mental and emotional energy to seriously invest in other people. I have one more year of grad school, so I will be quite busy until next June.
However, I really do want to find a partner and would like to date around. But I can’t seem to get the timing right. I keep going back forth between dating a bunch and not wanting to date at all.
Do you think "being too busy" is a fair reason not to date, or is it a cop out? Am I saving myself (and the women I might date) the difficulty of a crazy schedule, or am I selling myself short?
- Busy